Personal Boundaries On Social Media

I have to say that I am “old school” and counselling in general is not something I would want t take part in. This is in fact a perfect example as to how I and my life differs to that of my “adopted niece”. The reason the article was so poignant to me is that she and I have a very different attitude to life. I am not her parent so can take no responsibility for her up bringing but would have hoped to provide a role as a trusted outside “sounding board”. Some one who would let her try stuff in a safe environment with out the natural fear that parents have for their kids. So I suppose healthy debate falls into this category. The tumblr_lu3qyhLnFR1qhyhkoo1_500newspaper rang true as only a couple of weeks before reading it I had spent a couple of hours trying and I must say failing to understand why including your sexuality seems to be something you share with everyone on social media.

Obviously my teenage “relative” spends a considerable amount of time on social media, however as a web and social media expert so do I! My life as the owner of an escort agency working with some of the sexiest escorts Marbella can provide is a somewhat strange one but it means that I am immersed in social media and technology in a way that most women my age are not.

My “niece” and I both us it very differently with all of my social media exchanges being work focused and her being totally social. I really was a battle as we both have a very different viewpoint. I don’t see that someone you discuss tap dancing or bird watching with needs to know your sexuality, surely its not important to that “ friendship”. To me some things should be private. However her view is that its not important so why not share it.

I am sure that over the next few years we will continue to have many discussions about view points and ideas and I hope that we can agree to disagree and support each other in our views. Time will tell. However it was reassuring to me when looking in an old fashioned actual paper made from paper that others are suffering in the same way.

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WHAT MAKES A WOMAN SEXY?

What is female sex appeal? It is certainly different to good looks. There are plenty of beautiful women who just are not sexy. Equally there are women who are not the most symmetrical or perfect but who could still make a bishop kick a hole in a stained glass window.

Having a good body certainly helps, but that is not enough or even essential. Kate Winslet was way sexier in her curvy English days than she is now in her toned Hollywood era: Her tight pilates exercised and toned body is certainly great to see, but she has lost sensuality along with the pounds. The sexiest Madrid escorts and the most successful Barcelona escorts are not necessarily the ones who are picture perfect, symmetrical and all the other attributes that are supposed to make a woman appealing. Often it is some spark that a woman has in her eyes in the photos; a look that says that not merely will she rock your world in the bedroom, but that she will enjoy doing it and tumblr_lu3qyhLnFR1qhyhkoo1_500want you to carry on.

The kind of woman that turns a one hour booking into a weekend of fun, frivolity and non-stop debauchery is rarely the high-end model or the former Playboy centre fold. It is the woman who makes a man feel like a man. The kind of woman that make a man glad to be a man. They type of woman who enjoys being with a man and shows it; a woman who is demonstrative, tactile, and enjoys giving and receiving pleasure. That is the woman that a man wants to spend time with. One who finds him interesting and desirable and likes to give and receive pleasure.

The best escort Madrid has ever seen or the most desirable escort Barcelona could ever offer is probably not perfect. But she will be perfectly sexy. Which is not the same thing. Think of models for a second. Christy Turlington is perfect. Cindy Crawford with her mole is not. Who is sexier? Cindy by a country mile. Kate Upton is looked down on by fashion models who appear in Vogue and do high-end couture runway shows. But dear God she is sex on legs, especially in a bikini despite being in fashion terms “overweight”. Which, by the way, is a judgement no heterosexual man in the world would agree with if you out a gun to his head.

Rose Byrne is a fine actress and one of Australia´s finest exports. But she is just not sexy. Margot Robbie, on the other hand, is just sex personified. Any man could empathise with the sexual obsession the characters played by her leading men.

Sex appeal in a woman is not about being perfect. It is about the aura of wanting and liking men. Sensuality not perfection. To be very direct, a woman who looks as though she likes to fuck is more likely to have men queuing up to help her out. Nothing is sexier than a woman who likes to have sex.

Barcelona Looks Better By The Day

If someone is looking for a good time in the sun, then at some point you are inevitably going to find your thoughts and web browser turning to investigating Barcelona. With all the changes that have been happening in our world recently, pretty much all the other places that might have drawn you to them have become far less appetising. There is just so much trouble in the world that any tourist has to think about it when booking their holiday.

tumblr_lzssoz1wXy1qgv4hso1_500 - CopyGreece is tumultuous and broke. And even now there is a very good chance that if you put your debit card into a bank ATM you might not get it back. And besides, the escorts that you might be seeing are not worth the money anyway. Unless you are big on facial hair. Equally, can anyone rally be sure that a country so bankrupt will not decide to search your luggage at customs and decide that all your cash is actually really theirs? For that matter, if the country is so financially strapped that we can have those thoughts, how well maintained are the airports going to be?

Turkey is basically a war zone. No, that is not true. Turkey is a war zone, there is no basically about it. Kurdish terrorists, ISIL, a rebellious army, and a government that is leaning further to the fascist end of the scale by the day. So bad that the army tried to take over because they are more left wing than the current Premier.

Egypt is at least as bad as Turkey, but with the added benefit and attraction of Islamic fundamentalism embedded in the government. As for Algeria and Tunisia, well people are being murdered on the beaches. So that hardly makes them as appealing for fun in the sun, does it?

Looking for a good break, there is always Morocco, which is still a lovely destination but it has never really leant itself to either family holidays or beach based fun. The south of France? Too many Parisiennes. Italy? Lovely but the beaches are totally unavailable to non Italians as the beaches are all private and booked up months or even years ahead. Turn up on the beach at Viareggio and try to get a sunbed? Prepare yourself for a sardonic look and a mocking laugh!

Visitors to Barcelona get access to the benefits that Spain can bring; an open attitude to sex and laws that make it perfectly legal to buy or sell sex. Which means that Barcelona escorts can work and operate in total impunity. It might sound a little extreme, but if a woman wanted to walk down the road with a sandwich board advertising her wares and services the police would have no issue with it; unless she caused any traffic accidents of course. So a holiday maker in Barcelona is free to safely explore their sexuality and seek relaxation with the most stunning escorts Barcelona has to tempt them. Which has got to be a lot more appealing than ducking and weaving from the onslaught of angry terrorists rather than ducking and weaving to avoid the lures of hordes of sexy women.

The Six Ps Of Being An Escort

It is different being an escort in Marbella compared to pretty much anywhere else. There will likely be a lot of drugs and alcohol floating about in almost every situation that you find yourself in as a high class escort in Marbella. It is just that kind of place. And you need to be able to take care of yourself while those substances are being pushed at you. Your clients and friends will be encouraging you to partake. And you have to decide whether to, and if you do how to maintain your professionalism, performance and safety. The only other places that I know are the same in their extreme demands on working girls are Ibiza and Miami.

rear view escort girl maria nude with suntanAny escort working in Marbella will have to choose whether to say no to work, in the full knowledge that it can dry up again instantly, or work all the hours available to you and hope that you manage to keep up while the good times roll. Not an easy choice at all. You can chat with the bookers at the Marbella escort agencies that you work with, but they will not be able to predict who is calling when any better than you can. And it is your health and sanity that you are managing, so take care!

If you want to be a high class escort in Marbella or Puerto Banus, you have to maintain the product and manage the admin of your personal one person business. Any woman wanting to be the best escort Ibiza can provide will not be able to play at that level without maintenance. Gym visits and workouts, hair appointments, manicures and pedicures, buying new shoes clothes and make up, doing you banking and book keeping. Paying your bills and booking your travel. They all take time, energy and concentration. So it and you may look glamorous, but by God there is a lot of work that goes into it.

It is like pretty much any profession or business, I guess, and the six Ps apply – Proper Preparation Prevents Piss Poor Performance. For soldiers, project managers or escorts.

The Strange Moral Lines About Sex For Money

Andrew Carnegie once said that “He that can not reason is a fool. He that will not is a bigot. He that dare not is a slave.” I was watching a nineteen ninety six film called The People Versus Larry Flynt. It stars Woody Harrelson as Larry Flynt, the owner of Hostler magazine, dozens of others and owner of about half the internet. If it is porn he likely has a finger in it somewhere – if you see what I mean. Edward Norton stars as his long suffering lawyer and friend, and Courtney Love as his wife. If you have never seen it, you should. It is a damn good film and my goodness it got me thinking about a whole range of topics. But mainly the strange attitudes and laws around sex. In Spain, where I am mainly based, the law is not an issue. Consenting adults can get on with whatever sex they want, money or not. But moral judgements, that is different. Hijo de puta! (son of a whore) is still a common term of abuse.

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I guess this is about to be immoral

So, sex for money. Let us take a bit of a look at it. Halle Berry won an Oscar and got paid for pretending to have sex on camera. Porn stars can have sex on camera and get paid for it. And many of them are celebrated and become famous and write books. But even in Ibiza for a firm like Ally s Angels, escorts cannot get paid to have sex in private where nobody else gets to know about it without either the law or peoples silly unthinking moral judgments potentially slamming down on them. You think slut shaming is a thing? Try being a working escort!

It almost seems that having sex for money is OK only as long as you publicise it and let other people watch. Surely that is not the way it is intended to be? Why is a porn star a star and an escort a social outcast? Surely (except for some people with specialised tastes) sex is a private thing that consenting adults have together? Go to any club and strangers will be having sex outside or in the car park. Or even in the club. And they will never see each other again. And no-one cares. But if one of them has been paid it suddenly becomes wrong and shameful. For the payee, never for the payer. How is that right?

How Did I Become A Madam?

Ione – the Marbella Madam – asked me to talk about one of the most commonly asked questions about my work as the owner of an escort agency. One that she too gets asked all the time. How did I come to be in the industry in the first place and to start up my own business as a Madam? As an aside, I love the term “Madam”. It sounds much more 1900 New Orleans or Paris. All flock wall paper and velvet rather than the equivalent “Pimp” which is all Huggy Bear from Starsky and Hutch or New York as in The Deuce. Anyway, nineteen seventies and Cadillacs. Probably with furry seats. But I am digressing, back to the question, which has a fundamental flaw in it – that I started in the sex industry and then moved to start and manage an escort agency. Nope, not the case at all. I started out in the escorting and prostitution business as a result of the 2008 banking and economic crisis, but not as an escort or as a sex worker of any kind. I started at the top, as it were as a coldly rational business decision.

babe ruth quoteWhen the 2008 banking crisis hit – who would have thought that selling second mortgages to people with no jobs and no income would be a bad idea? – my business consultancy was hit along with it. Firms were just not looking to invest in marketing when their income was falling. Which is like someone saying that they will not do any marketing until sales improve. Anyway, my marketing consultancy was in trouble and along with it my lifestyle. So I followed my own advice and analysed the markets. Fortunately, I already knew Ione so it was easy to pick her brain. And the more I thought about it, the more the answer of starting an escort agency became an obvious solution. Mine may never be as good as 2nd Circle in Malaga, but it hits all my essential criteria that I researched. The basic questions I looked into are below. And when you think about it you might come up with a similar conclusion to mine and Ione´s.

  • What industries are recession proof?

  • What types of business have relatively low start up costs?

  • What industries are there where I can sub contract most of the work?

  • What business sectors are there where success depends almost entirely on your own work and skill, rather than who you know’

  • What businesses have a large number of smaller clients instead of relying on a small number of very large ones?

  • What businesses have steady daily cash flow instead of big lumps followed by potential famine?

Simples, really. Then I just had to work out how to do it!

My Life As A Brazilian Escort In Las Palmas

My working name is Maria (as in, that is not my real name) and I am a Brazilian escort working in Spain and sometimes other parts of Europe. I do not like getting too far from the sun shine, as you would expect. I have been working as an escort for eight years now. No one forced me into it and it is work that, while I am not excited by it, I know I am good at and it gives me enough money to live the life I want to live. I go back to Brazil to see my family twice a year, usually for a month at a time. It is always good to see them. Once every couple of years my family will come to Spain to visit me. The apartment will get a little full then, because that means my mother, father, sister and two brothers. Luckily none of my brothers or sisters are married yet! All the family know what I do for a living and they are all fine with it. Sex is not such a big thing in Brazil as it is in Europe or America. But I do not work while they are here. I do not want to rub their noses in it too much.

brazilian escort working out in las palmas dumbells and black shorts and crop topI came to Spain to live with my Portuguese boyfriend. We had been together for a year in Sao Paolo before we came to Europe. After a few months in Portugal we got married. Partly because we loved each other and partly to make sure that I could stay in Europe and would not have any problems with the immigration authorities. Inevitably pretty soon after that we separated. And before you get cynical and think that it was a marriage of convenience, it was him who left me. For a girl from his work. We stay in touch, but I had to find a way to pay the bills if I was going to stay in Europe. While I was in Las Palmas for the winter sun and work, I went from waitress to stripper to lap dancer to full-on escort in Las Palmas over the course of about four months as I could see the extra money the next type of girl was making.

Having sex with men for money is absolutely no problem for me. I like keeping in shape and I love dressing up and looking pretty. And I am making enough money to put lots aside each year and save up for my future. I think I probably have another five to eight years before my looks start to fade and I would have to start taking work I do not want. But by then I should have made more than enough money to buy my own place and start my own business, either here or back in Brazil.