The Strange Moral Lines About Sex For Money

Andrew Carnegie once said that “He that can not reason is a fool. He that will not is a bigot. He that dare not is a slave.” I was watching a nineteen ninety six film called The People Versus Larry Flynt. It stars Woody Harrelson as Larry Flynt, the owner of Hostler magazine, dozens of others and owner of about half the internet. If it is porn he likely has a finger in it somewhere – if you see what I mean. Edward Norton stars as his long suffering lawyer and friend, and Courtney Love as his wife. If you have never seen it, you should. It is a damn good film and my goodness it got me thinking about a whole range of topics. But mainly the strange attitudes and laws around sex. In Spain, where I am mainly based, the law is not an issue. Consenting adults can get on with whatever sex they want, money or not. But moral judgements, that is different. Hijo de puta! (son of a whore) is still a common term of abuse.

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I guess this is about to be immoral

So, sex for money. Let us take a bit of a look at it. Halle Berry won an Oscar and got paid for pretending to have sex on camera. Porn stars can have sex on camera and get paid for it. And many of them are celebrated and become famous and write books. But even in Ibiza for a firm like Ally s Angels, escorts cannot get paid to have sex in private where nobody else gets to know about it without either the law or peoples silly unthinking moral judgments potentially slamming down on them. You think slut shaming is a thing? Try being a working escort!

It almost seems that having sex for money is OK only as long as you publicise it and let other people watch. Surely that is not the way it is intended to be? Why is a porn star a star and an escort a social outcast? Surely (except for some people with specialised tastes) sex is a private thing that consenting adults have together? Go to any club and strangers will be having sex outside or in the car park. Or even in the club. And they will never see each other again. And no-one cares. But if one of them has been paid it suddenly becomes wrong and shameful. For the payee, never for the payer. How is that right?

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MARBELLA HISTORY – SEX AND MONEY

Marbella was really a tiny village of a few hundred residents before the sixties, when Prince Alfonso of Hohenlohe-Langenburg inaugurated The Marbella Club and concentrated on drawing in global celebs to visit what was at that point a relaxed and secret jet-set retreat. Patrons encompassed Hollywood celebrities including Gary Cooper and Vivien Leigh, Richard Burton and Elizabeth Taylor, Ava Gardner, as well as a host of the principal International aristocratic friends and families.

The eastward end of the Costa — Fuengirola and Mijas, Torremolinos, Benalmadena,– are the place the Daily Mail has the tendency to send off press whenever they are really trying to find stories relating to benefits frauds, drugs and the Spanish people being racist towards English immigrants.

Marbella and the rest of the Costa are peculiar bedfellows.

The West Costa del Sol; Marbella and Puerto Banus especially is really the place the Daily Mail sends journalists to look for hoodlums,, vips, narcotics and anecdotes about the Spanish being shady.

The Costa was really initially a succession of tiny white villages centred on fishing and agriculture. But apart from the capability to grow nearly anything including things like tangerines, grapes and giant olives– most of which had been renowned across Europe from Roman times– the Costa del Sol had one huge item that made it special. over 300 days each year of sun. Not overly hot in the summer months, not excessively chilly in the winter months; it is really pretty much, similar to San Diego, the Goldilocks of environments. And with the advance of jet transport from the sixties on, it turned into a destination of preference for North Europeans.

However, the coast and Marbella area especially is also the place where Daily Mail writers come down to play golf, unwind with their families and attempt to associate with stars!

For sure the first classy escorts arrived in Marbella at pretty much the same time !

Well … not quite.

A large portion of the Marbella escorts focus on the famous 2nd line in Marina Banus, the place they ply their business in the clubs and on the roadway. It is chaotic and can be really enjoyable if you are really into that kind of scene …

However, there is nonetheless a huge option of females doing work individually and for the notable Escort agencies in Marbella. So unwind, enjoy yourself and pick the girl or agency that you really feel most relaxed along with.

To offer you a feeling of proportion, that suggests that at any given moment in the summer time there is approximately one escort lady in Marbella per twenty males! Exemplary proportions on the purchasing aspect of the picture. And what a variety of sensual working girls there must absolutely be really!



I am really sure you can just imagine the style of the Marbella escorts from the eighties– major hairstyle, shoulder pads, dusky tan and lashings of blusher. But a great deal more “all-natural” appearing in other types of aspects as breast enhancements weren’t as common at that time. These days a breast augmentation pretty much seems to be mandatory for virtually any escort in Marbella. However, it should be really stated that the really successful high-class escorts in Marbella are now truly very less likely to be really boosted. A more petite chest has the identical value that ivory skin used to have in the Victorian era.

The inadequacy of deportation from Spain to the United Kingdom (and other places) also pulled in a less appetizing cadre of mobsters and runaways. So much to ensure it earned the nickname Costa del Crime. And, as you might expect, skilled escorts were constantly in very high demand to help such testosterone fed men take a break. Also, if you are a successful businessman/ crook you ought to have to have an attractive and naughty woman in attendance, do you not ?

Most of the Marbella hookers who tour for the hot months don’t realize how very competitive the market place is and only manage to stay for a week or so when their dreams of immediate recognition and riches do not materialize. Being an escort in Marbella is like virtually any business enterprise; it takes a while to truly build a brand.

These days, Marbella is really practically an amusement park for escorts and prostitutes of all kinds. All year, the “adult recreation” section of Sur in English is really loaded along with personal ads that yield little to the imagination and often traumatize first time tourists. In the busiest part of the summer there are practically 4,500 working escorts operating in the Marbella market. Which is omitting all the slutty babes who will likely shag for a night out and a pair of shoes!

Next there are really the “houses” or cathouses the place a gentleman will discover up to 200 Marbella escort babes at every time. These range from the long recognized and sophisticated Milady Palace through to mid-range welcoming places such as The Glass Palace to pure houses of extremely ill repute. At that point there are really the private homes used as “houses” which are commonly fronts for drugs gangs.

In nineteen seventy, the harbor of Puerto Banus started and Marbella ´ s appeal took off. Hot sunshine and star quality attracted cash, aristocracy and celebrities from everywhere in the globe, which generated the accompanying cadre of builders, cooks accountants and obviously, high class Marbella escort women.

MARBELLA NEEDS TO PUSH UP MARKET

People from the U.S. would be very dissatisfied with the crappy “steak” that many restaurants supply. And this in a nation renowned for its bulls! Consequently poor quality restaurants are progressively more becoming specialists or are raising their standards to those of the best restaurants in the region such as Tango in Plaza Antonia Banderas

Anywhere you explore on the Costa del Sol, it is evident that there are an escalating amount of guests from North America and the far east. They are powering the investing and real estate development upsurge in the same way that Arab and drug laundering cash did in the 80s. Their coming is propelling the local business community to readjust to meet their many different requirements.

Marbella and area these days is a fascinating mix of the seedy and the glamorous. However I guess for lots of people, the seedy arena of narcotics and hoods is thought of as glamorous so there is probably some cross-over between them.

Olivia Valere club carries on as though the 1980s never ended (apart from the fashions) and still offers pretty much the same as aver. Likewise, the out-of-date hoodlum laden Sleek disco has been displaced by the hoodlum laden Cavalli Club. Which hardly seems like an upgrade apart from the branding.

As a traveller and occasional denizen of Marbella over recent number of years, it has been stimulating to observe the environment of the place change over times. From the original summit of the 1980s “Costa Del Crime” boost, when gangsters poured into Marbella with theirMarbella hookers and gangster entourages to revel in the questionable or non existent extradition arrangements, to today’s international jet-set scene, Marbella and its neighbouring places including Puerto Banus and Sotogrande, Riviera, Nueva Andalucia, has changed at a an amazing rate while nevertheless continuing to be unchanged at its core.

The Costa del Sol and Marbella will always evolve. I hope it will be in the right way. It has had the tendency to be in the past, despite the periodic huge misstep on the odyssey.

There is without a doubt a contingent of global mobsters (who tend to be surprisingly disorganised rather than the slick operations that we see on the TV) which is incredibly detectable and seems to be unconcerned by the supposed escalation in international police cooperation. Nevertheless there is also a growing undeniably upmarket sector to the area, that is now significant.

To give a very distinct illustration from the service sector; escort agencies who purely market dull young chicas without any English and are unwilling to allow payment in dollars or plastic credit will be powerless to keep up with firms such as 2nd Circle Escorts Marbella or Marbella Beauties from the Marbella Escort Agency. Those firms are providing gorgeous superior escorts in Marbella from a range of backgrounds with a wide range of language talents. And due to the fact that they are properly managed businesses instead of some sort of “life-style” endeavour, they can deliver various payment choices. They are also professional, truthful and keep their undertakings. Which makes a change reportedly!

The Contrast In Style Is Stunning

It does not matter how long I live in Marbella and the Costa del Sol, some things still surprise the hell out of me. And as I have been spending a lot of time in Ibiza this spring and summer it has been a little like seeing home in Marbella with a fresh eye.

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Not an escort. But very Marbella

Other than the sudden and massive increase in the number of people that seem to have appeared over night while I was away for a few days, one thing really struck me about Marbella (Puerto Banus especially) when I came back after a short trip to Ibiza. The massive, over-the-top bling slinging and super-human super conscious effort that visitors to Marbs take. TOWIE made “no carbs till Marbs” famous as a slogan. But it seems that they also somehow or other. Somewhere along the line, became the ultimate fashion and styling icons for anyone who visits Marbella, Puerto Banus and the surrounding area.

It seems that no woman of whatever age or physical condition can go to one of the beach clubs in Marbella such as Ocean Club, La Sala by the Sea, or Nikki Beach without six inch platform heels, a designer swimsuit with lots of metal on it (ouch in forty degree sunshine!) and full night-time make-up and hair styling. Together, of course, with lots of shiny bracelets, huge designer sunglasses and a designer handbag large enough to fit a small car.

And no man can appear at the same locations without some combination of steroid enhanced body-builder physique (with every single body hair removed of course) and large and very heavy luxury watch and a car that costs the same to run as a small African country.

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Again not an escort. But much more Ibiza.

Ibiza gives a total contrast. It is all about hippy chic and boho style. If you are a guy wearing a clunky luxury watch such as a Rolex you might as well put a sign over your head saying “asshole who doesn’t get it”. If you are a woman, it is shorts and a peasant top with flat shoes or trainers so you can go from the beach to the club and dance all night. And if your are wearing high heels you are either trying too hard or are advertising your wares as one of the lower-end streetwalking escorts who haunt the taxi ranks outside Space, Ushuaia and Pacha.

The same style differences apply to the escorts in Marbella and the escorts in Ibiza. None of my friends who work in Marbella and Puerto Banus could ever go to meet a client in anything other than full nightclub get up. Even at three in the afternoon. The highest of heels, the sexiest and most overt of dresses, full on blatant glamour with no exception unless the client has absolutely specified.

The best escorts Ibiza has to offer, as opposed to their peers who are the finest escorts Marbella can provide are much more low-key in their style. Shorts, ankle boots, (high heels in their bag together with the sex toys!) and much less overtly shouting their sex appeal.

I guess the girls fit what the men are used to being turned on by. Which makes total sense, of course. But flying from one to the other and being very aware of the styling and selling of sexuality is a little disorienting. And tough on the wardrobe!

Checking Your Phone During Sex…

 

I am fairly broad-minded. There are few things I haven’t done. Managing the best escorts in Marbella and having worked with the finest London escorts there are even fewer that I haven’t organised. And I don’t think there is anything that I haven’t been asked for, except necrophilia – though I did once have an enquiry from a man who wanted a girl to play dead. With his personality it was probably what he was used to from his previous partners…

But even I was shocked to discover a sex act that is so disgusting, that shows such little respect for the other human being(s) that you are with that it is staggering in its depravity. Checking out your phone notifications during sex.

Seriously, WTF people?

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And then she checked her Twitter feed…

A friend sent me the link to this Huffington Post video which is OK but did at least get me thinking. Surely that isn’t actually a thing? Well it seems that I am officially old. I checked it out with a selection of my friends both in and out of the adult industries. I thought maybe women might be more prone than men because, you know, cliches. Or professionals than amateurs because they are checking out for business.Or people in long term relationships rather than the first throes of passion because actually Twitter might be more stimulating!

And it seems that it is an age thing, not a profession thing. Amateur friends were no more or less likely to do or experience this than some stunning Ibiza escort. But while all my younger high class escort colleagues and friends immediately understood what I was asking and thought it was no big thing, my older civilian friends and mature London escorts had the same reaction I did.

For me, if the sex is so dull that you are able to check your phone, then there is something seriously wrong. And if you are paying for a woman’s time and attention and still check your phone then surely you aren’t getting value? Well, it seems I am officially an old fart.

But I am still right, and it is still wrong. So just stop it. OK?

Kisses,

Bella x