The Strange Moral Lines About Sex For Money

Andrew Carnegie once said that “He that can not reason is a fool. He that will not is a bigot. He that dare not is a slave.” I was watching a nineteen ninety six film called The People Versus Larry Flynt. It stars Woody Harrelson as Larry Flynt, the owner of Hostler magazine, dozens of others and owner of about half the internet. If it is porn he likely has a finger in it somewhere – if you see what I mean. Edward Norton stars as his long suffering lawyer and friend, and Courtney Love as his wife. If you have never seen it, you should. It is a damn good film and my goodness it got me thinking about a whole range of topics. But mainly the strange attitudes and laws around sex. In Spain, where I am mainly based, the law is not an issue. Consenting adults can get on with whatever sex they want, money or not. But moral judgements, that is different. Hijo de puta! (son of a whore) is still a common term of abuse.

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I guess this is about to be immoral

So, sex for money. Let us take a bit of a look at it. Halle Berry won an Oscar and got paid for pretending to have sex on camera. Porn stars can have sex on camera and get paid for it. And many of them are celebrated and become famous and write books. But even in Ibiza for a firm like Ally s Angels, escorts cannot get paid to have sex in private where nobody else gets to know about it without either the law or peoples silly unthinking moral judgments potentially slamming down on them. You think slut shaming is a thing? Try being a working escort!

It almost seems that having sex for money is OK only as long as you publicise it and let other people watch. Surely that is not the way it is intended to be? Why is a porn star a star and an escort a social outcast? Surely (except for some people with specialised tastes) sex is a private thing that consenting adults have together? Go to any club and strangers will be having sex outside or in the car park. Or even in the club. And they will never see each other again. And no-one cares. But if one of them has been paid it suddenly becomes wrong and shameful. For the payee, never for the payer. How is that right?

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Fucking and Finance

Obviously in London there are the energetic and striving service markets that group all over pretty much everywhere that cash can be found; restaurants, bars, night clubs and strip clubs, barbers, couturier and clothes shops. And, this being an equal opportunities age, jewelers, make up stores and beauty parlors, and loads of health clubs and fitness centres. And high class escorts.

The very major firms in the London finance field have moved to Canary Wharf, the place where many of the world-wide investment and retail banking companies are based, and to Belgravia the place where the Hedge Fund and equity capital whales reside, do the job and frolic. Often with sexy London escorts, of course.

High class London escorts are located in plenty of places of London, but eventually each one of them will definitely at least try out their hands (!) at operating in the financial market place. Who has not pondered on messing around in the finance marketplace at some point? Well these kinds of young ladies can do, and do, when they want. All the remarks on the news about men and women coming into and leaving the market make me smile somehow. I can not conceive of precisely why …

But let us be truthful, where there is the magical three legs of power, loot and men there will definitely consistently be an escort trade. Much like all the other types of support trades, London escorts are enticed to where naughty males with funds work very long work days. And that conventionally means the City of London. Although now, of course, it also suggests Canary Wharf where the multinational banks function and cavort and Belgravia where the “Hedgies” of the hugely loaded private Hedge Funds are set up in discrete houses free from even a sign to display their whereabouts. If you do not really know wherein they are, they will not want you to look around them in any case.

Working in the City of London is a great experience in a lot of ways. The feeling of history surrounding you in the thoroughfares and buildings surrounding you is evident; from Samuel Pepys residence and roadways he would definitely have been acquainted with to the settings of Jack the Rippers homicides, World War 2 shell spaces that appear in the striking incongruity of two matching property along with a fresh eighties structure, rendering it transparent that the hole is where German bombs ruined a former building. The architecture that is meant to scream about the power and dependability of the operators, be they insurance organizations, banking institutions, merchant banks, brokers or accountants.

The classic City of London (the Square Mile) is now catering predominantly to the minor portion of the investment professional services industry (and Goldman Sachs!) including insurance companies and their associated businesses who bunch up all around the Lloyds Property and the recognizable Swiss Re tower. It is a misnomer seriously to refer to the City when a lot of giants are someplace else. But lots of people mention Wall Street inspite of countless of the main firms being actually settled down in Connecticut.

Romanian sex workers persecuted in England

I am still not sure what amazed me most about this article in The Guardian. The understated headline, the random misogyny and sexism of the British Police and Home Office, the double standards or the fact that it was hidden and not front page news.

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Let me quote at length from the article:

A policy aimed at deporting “high-harm” EU-national criminals and those not entitled to remain in Britain is to be challenged by Romanian sex workers who maintain they are self-employed.

Among those detained and served with deportation papers are an increasing number of women from eastern Europe who have been working on the streets and in premises across London and Manchester. Many do not have convictions.

Prostitution is legal in the UK, although activities associated with it such as kerb-crawling, pimping and owning a brothel are crimes. Some of the women have been arrested by officers during raids intended to break up trafficking rings.

The women, mainly Romanian, have received letters from Operation Nexus officers giving them about a month’s notice that they are liable to be detained and put on a flight back to Bucharest.

Several women fighting deportation are now being supported by the English Collective of Prostitutes (ECP). “There was a raid which was supposed to be saving victims from trafficking,” explained one young woman who wished to remain anonymous.

The police took paperwork and money. I asked for a receipt. They said I was being cheeky. They wanted to know if had been trafficked and asked the client if I was taking drugs. He said no.

They didn’t arrest me but said I should be deported and asked me to go to the police station. I went along with a lawyer and showed a letter from a course proving that I was studying English.” The threat to remove her was eventually dropped.

Some of the women who were sent removal letters are now planning to challenge them on the grounds that they are exercising their treaty rights through being self-employed in the sex industry. Previous EU law cases have established that prostitution constitutes self-employment.”

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All of which I might be able to get behind if self employed polish plumbers or Hungarian builders or Dutch farm workers. Or men at all. But its so blatantly targeted at Romanians,And women. As such it is classic racism and misogyny.

I don’t work directly with a lot of Romanians working as escorts in Marbella. But I do have a very good friend called Alex (real name, by the way) who is bright, honest, funny and very hard working. She came to Spain with a plan on what she wanted to do as a Marbella escort and she works her plan.

The idea that she is some kind of “high-harm” anything is laughable and stupid. And I am sure that there are many women just like her working as escorts in London.

I spoke with my friends at Ally’s Angels escorts Ibiza and they had a similar story to tell. The same with several of the best escort agencies in Ibiza.

I am sure that there are women who have been trafficked. This campaign isnt going to help them. And there are people involved in drugs and criminal activity. None of the women described in this article fall anywhere near that category.

And, just as an aside, since when have the English Police been allowed to seize someone´s property without permission, let alone a receipt?

Stopping now due to the steam coming out of my ears making a mess of the laptop.

Will Brexit mean a Brit expat exodus?

The short answer is no. Certainly not from here in Spain.

This article in The Times raised the question recently in a rather dramatic manner, such that The Guardian felt obliged to report it. Does anyone else remember when The Times was the official newspaper of record for the entire world?

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The facts, though, do not support the argument. And nor does apocryphal evidence here “on the ground”.

The Times quotes UN population estimates for 2015 which say that 1.22 million Britons are living in other EU countries at present. The same source shows that in 2010 the figure was 1.18 million. The estimated number of British migrants in the EU has therefore slightly increased during the six years to 2015.

The article says that 100 Britons have been leaving Spain over the past two years. That is based on UN data showing that slightly fewer than 309,000 UK nationals were living in Spain during the period, compared to 381,025 in 2013. The 2010 level was 319,144 people.

However, the article’s claim that the drop in the number living in Spain is driven by Brexit fears has not been substantiated. Data published by Spain’s national statistics office reveal that outward migration from Spain has increased substantially since 2009 due to the country’s economic woes, which have affected both Spanish nationals and foreign-born residents.

However, it is quite likely that the UN data underestimates the number of Britons living abroad because EU citizens living in other member states do not have to register their arrival.I know many Britons who have been living in Spain for many years and have not obtained an NIE. I´m not sure how they function, as without it most things are somewhere between difficult and impossible, but then I am fairly well integrated.

Even fewer go for full residency, as it is extremely difficult (and sometimes expensive) to obtain. Which is odd, as paying tax properly without residency is tricky, so you would think the government would encourage it.

I also wonder how the number of Britons is calculated – NIE registrations, local voter registrations or residency?

For example, in 2010 the Institute for Public Policy Research estimated that 808,000 UK nationals were living in Spain permanently. And that certainly seems like a far more realistic figure

In addition, as the piece itself states, there is no sudden increase in Britons returning home. According to the latest migration estimates from the Office for National Statistics 87,000 British citizens returned to the UK in the year ending September 2015. In the same period for the previous year, it was 81,000. And in 2010 at the height of the economic crisis and when there was no talk of Brexit, 92,000 Britons left. So basically, the entire article is tosh!

There are also a huge number of Spaniards emigrating to other Eu countries in the same period. And that has little to do with “Brexit” and everything to do with the terrible economic situation in most of Spain, and especially for young people.

We are fortunate here in Marbella in that we have a micro-economy made up of wealthy residents, and the tourists that we attract here are more wealthy than the general population. And that is obviously good news for my Marbella escorts!

As an aside, the article in The Guardian did give them the chance to roll out some of the usual cliches, including what Britons in Spain are like. Did they mention Marbella, or the successful business and club owners in Ibiza? Oh no. They show this…2984

I mean, really? Not Tibu and La Sala in Marbella, or the bars inland where everyone is beautifully integrated? Not Pacha in Ibiza, where my friends who are Ibiza escorts spend so much of their “off-duty” time? Nope. Fat middle aged men  surrounded by Union flags playing, incidentally, American pool! Grrr…

Its like someone doing an article about England and deciding to show a photo of a pub in Skelmersdale instead of somewhere in Chelsea where my London MILF friends might hang out. Or an abandoned park in some former mining town instead of sexy beautiful girls putting their wares on display in Green Park.

Everything is about focus I get. And the media are superb at controlling that while all the time presenting themselves as impartial.

So, back to the original question. Will Brexit mean that there will be a massive exodus of Britons from Spain? Only if the Spanish decide that the huge amounts of money spent here by Britons are outweighed ny the few people claiming Spanish benefits. There is no way on Gods earth that most expat Brits will voluntarily go back!

Kisses

 

 

Taste The Bush

Hard to imagine why an advert that invites you to “taste the bush” might generate complaints in the UK.

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Typically subtle Australian advertising

Just read this in Huffington Post and it made me cringe and smile. Not at the same time, that would have made me look like I was having a stroke.

Australian wine company Premier Estates decided to push their brand with an advert and social media campaign that was pretty much certain to generate some controversy. Heaven forbid what they might have chosen to do so as a way of getting a lot more bang for their buck. Why pay for advertising when you can get the UK´s Advertising Standards Authority and the media (and me) to do it for you?

The ASA received eight complaints and then climbed on their high horse and pontificated with their ruling against Premier Estates.

They said that most people watching the ad would interpret “taste the bush” “to be a reference to oral sex, particularly given that it was accompanied with the image of the wine glass positioned directly in front of the woman’s crotch.”They said that because of that “the ad presented the woman in a degrading manner,”.

They also ruled that people would understand the hashtag #TasteTheBush to be a double entendre that could refer to Australian wine or female genitalia. Surely not?

I asked my escorts in Marbella and my friends who are Ibiza escorts and they just laughed at how pompous we British can be sometimes. They were also amazed that eight people complaining can mean that the rest of the British people are not allowed to see something…except via social media, the newspapers…

Personally I think it is the great tradition of subtle Australian advertising as shown in the Holeproof “No Knickers” campaign…

And I shall be seeking out the fine but reasonably priced Premier Estates wines at the first opportunity.

Kisses

Ione x

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