Dating & Running An Agency Do Not Mix

While you are running an escort agency, it is unbelievably hard to get into a new relationship or to stay in one long term. The two issues are equally problematic but come about for very different reasons, although both are to do with the work – which I love and is hard to give up and, if I am honest, I do not want to give up. It is hard to meet a new partner, other than casually, because I work so hard for so many hours every week, and those hours are totally unpredictable. I could have a major client fly in for three days with no notice and need a different girl every three hours. Some to accompany him as arm candy for his business, some for socialising, and some for sex. This all actually happened recently when an investment specialist from Hong Kong flew in to check on a building project unannounced. Things like that make it rather tricky to meet people or tumblr_lzssoz1wXy1qgv4hso1_500 - Copyarrange dates that I can stick to.

The second problem is the obvious – what woman will be comfortable dating someone who spends their whole working life in Marbella dealing with beautiful and sexy girls who have sex for a living? I do not meet the escort girls in person as often as I used to, but my phone and email are full of professional nude and lingerie shots and glamorous selfies of women trying to convince me to work with them. It is not too much of a stretch to imagine that those same women might not offer me sex to get on the books or to get the best jobs? Obviously this only becomes a problem once someone knows what I do for a living. Which raises the question of when I tell someone what my business really is. Too soon and it can scare them off and too late and they feel deceived and that I have been keeping things from them. Both are perfectly understandable, to be honest.

So when I do occasionally meet a woman that I would like to see on more than a very casual basis, I initially tell her that I am in the e-commerce business, running website, web marketing, SEO and all that. Which is true of course, but not the whole story. And then I have to gradually reveal what kind of sites they are and that I own them. Honestly, it is sometimes too much of a pain to be bothered with so I just burrow deeper into my work.

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The Strange Moral Lines About Sex For Money

Andrew Carnegie once said that “He that can not reason is a fool. He that will not is a bigot. He that dare not is a slave.” I was watching a nineteen ninety six film called The People Versus Larry Flynt. It stars Woody Harrelson as Larry Flynt, the owner of Hostler magazine, dozens of others and owner of about half the internet. If it is porn he likely has a finger in it somewhere – if you see what I mean. Edward Norton stars as his long suffering lawyer and friend, and Courtney Love as his wife. If you have never seen it, you should. It is a damn good film and my goodness it got me thinking about a whole range of topics. But mainly the strange attitudes and laws around sex. In Spain, where I am mainly based, the law is not an issue. Consenting adults can get on with whatever sex they want, money or not. But moral judgements, that is different. Hijo de puta! (son of a whore) is still a common term of abuse.

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I guess this is about to be immoral

So, sex for money. Let us take a bit of a look at it. Halle Berry won an Oscar and got paid for pretending to have sex on camera. Porn stars can have sex on camera and get paid for it. And many of them are celebrated and become famous and write books. But even in Ibiza for a firm like Ally s Angels, escorts cannot get paid to have sex in private where nobody else gets to know about it without either the law or peoples silly unthinking moral judgments potentially slamming down on them. You think slut shaming is a thing? Try being a working escort!

It almost seems that having sex for money is OK only as long as you publicise it and let other people watch. Surely that is not the way it is intended to be? Why is a porn star a star and an escort a social outcast? Surely (except for some people with specialised tastes) sex is a private thing that consenting adults have together? Go to any club and strangers will be having sex outside or in the car park. Or even in the club. And they will never see each other again. And no-one cares. But if one of them has been paid it suddenly becomes wrong and shameful. For the payee, never for the payer. How is that right?

Checking Your Phone During Sex…

 

I am fairly broad-minded. There are few things I haven’t done. Managing the best escorts in Marbella and having worked with the finest London escorts there are even fewer that I haven’t organised. And I don’t think there is anything that I haven’t been asked for, except necrophilia – though I did once have an enquiry from a man who wanted a girl to play dead. With his personality it was probably what he was used to from his previous partners…

But even I was shocked to discover a sex act that is so disgusting, that shows such little respect for the other human being(s) that you are with that it is staggering in its depravity. Checking out your phone notifications during sex.

Seriously, WTF people?

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And then she checked her Twitter feed…

A friend sent me the link to this Huffington Post video which is OK but did at least get me thinking. Surely that isn’t actually a thing? Well it seems that I am officially old. I checked it out with a selection of my friends both in and out of the adult industries. I thought maybe women might be more prone than men because, you know, cliches. Or professionals than amateurs because they are checking out for business.Or people in long term relationships rather than the first throes of passion because actually Twitter might be more stimulating!

And it seems that it is an age thing, not a profession thing. Amateur friends were no more or less likely to do or experience this than some stunning Ibiza escort. But while all my younger high class escort colleagues and friends immediately understood what I was asking and thought it was no big thing, my older civilian friends and mature London escorts had the same reaction I did.

For me, if the sex is so dull that you are able to check your phone, then there is something seriously wrong. And if you are paying for a woman’s time and attention and still check your phone then surely you aren’t getting value? Well, it seems I am officially an old fart.

But I am still right, and it is still wrong. So just stop it. OK?

Kisses,

Bella x