The Strange Moral Lines About Sex For Money

Andrew Carnegie once said that “He that can not reason is a fool. He that will not is a bigot. He that dare not is a slave.” I was watching a nineteen ninety six film called The People Versus Larry Flynt. It stars Woody Harrelson as Larry Flynt, the owner of Hostler magazine, dozens of others and owner of about half the internet. If it is porn he likely has a finger in it somewhere – if you see what I mean. Edward Norton stars as his long suffering lawyer and friend, and Courtney Love as his wife. If you have never seen it, you should. It is a damn good film and my goodness it got me thinking about a whole range of topics. But mainly the strange attitudes and laws around sex. In Spain, where I am mainly based, the law is not an issue. Consenting adults can get on with whatever sex they want, money or not. But moral judgements, that is different. Hijo de puta! (son of a whore) is still a common term of abuse.

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I guess this is about to be immoral

So, sex for money. Let us take a bit of a look at it. Halle Berry won an Oscar and got paid for pretending to have sex on camera. Porn stars can have sex on camera and get paid for it. And many of them are celebrated and become famous and write books. But even in Ibiza for a firm like Ally s Angels, escorts cannot get paid to have sex in private where nobody else gets to know about it without either the law or peoples silly unthinking moral judgments potentially slamming down on them. You think slut shaming is a thing? Try being a working escort!

It almost seems that having sex for money is OK only as long as you publicise it and let other people watch. Surely that is not the way it is intended to be? Why is a porn star a star and an escort a social outcast? Surely (except for some people with specialised tastes) sex is a private thing that consenting adults have together? Go to any club and strangers will be having sex outside or in the car park. Or even in the club. And they will never see each other again. And no-one cares. But if one of them has been paid it suddenly becomes wrong and shameful. For the payee, never for the payer. How is that right?

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CHELSEA CHARM

Chelsea is a charming location at virtually each time of the calendar year. The Kings Rd is irresistible and appealing in nearly anything other than the worst of the typical London climate; gusty gray and light rain. But perhaps even then, at the good times of calendar year, for instance Yuletide when the decorations and light fixtures are out, it is nevertheless magnificent and significantly just like a chocolate carton. Still being one of the major retail therapy roads in one of the largest city conurbations in the world, the Kings Road is wonderfully Chelsea because it manages to retain a community feeling. Even though that community is filled by an astonishingly wealthy and frequently stylish set of people.

Chelsea is a trendy community that is certainly not particularly on the way to virtually any place different. It is furthermore so discrete that numerous people have passed by free from perhaps even knowing it. Probably that is the reason that many make-believe agents have lived in the neighborhood. You must seek out Chelsea. And even to acquire the very best out of it you need to slow down and browse. It is certainly not like Oxford Road in which everything is there before you. It is stylish and conceals its allures. Just like the various extraordinarily successful people who opt to nest in Chelsea instead of anyplace different on the planet.

Therefore, investigate the area of the capital. Slow down. Have your senses open. You certainly never appreciate what exactly you will spot.

Secret tiny sex bars alongside furniture outlets and typical London inns do not scream their services but merely have petite shiny brass name plates. And the bulk of the adventure goes off away from the location. Also of course, there are the premier and mature London courtesans who both meet people at their homes or hotel rooms, or toil out of apartment or condos in locations including Chelsea Cloisters on Sloane Avenue. Rather few escorts at the peak of the market carry on at the place they live. Therefore, short term accommodation locations similar to this are very favored. Indeed there are so many high class Chelsea escorts doing the trick right there that the old witticism is that if every female in Chelsea Cloisters was laid from one end to the other it would simply be a routine Friday.

Kensington and Chelsea remains one the finest whereabouts to show your success, so as a classy, expensive and gorgeous area of central london there really are clearly not a lot of roadside prostitutes to be located (not that generally there are a large number anywhere in London city any more) but there are lots of London escorts to be gotten a hold of if you figure out just where to look.

Past the Kings Road, Chelsea is a collection of small boulevards in a street plan that appears rather sensible viewed on a map (or Google maps) yet on the pavement makes up minimal or no point. The cul-de-sacs and side boulevards are substantially smaller than you could expect and the highways significantly longer. It is absolutely typical to observe the identical folks needing directions in several unique sites in a small space of time!

Fucking and Finance

Obviously in London there are the energetic and striving service markets that group all over pretty much everywhere that cash can be found; restaurants, bars, night clubs and strip clubs, barbers, couturier and clothes shops. And, this being an equal opportunities age, jewelers, make up stores and beauty parlors, and loads of health clubs and fitness centres. And high class escorts.

The very major firms in the London finance field have moved to Canary Wharf, the place where many of the world-wide investment and retail banking companies are based, and to Belgravia the place where the Hedge Fund and equity capital whales reside, do the job and frolic. Often with sexy London escorts, of course.

High class London escorts are located in plenty of places of London, but eventually each one of them will definitely at least try out their hands (!) at operating in the financial market place. Who has not pondered on messing around in the finance marketplace at some point? Well these kinds of young ladies can do, and do, when they want. All the remarks on the news about men and women coming into and leaving the market make me smile somehow. I can not conceive of precisely why …

But let us be truthful, where there is the magical three legs of power, loot and men there will definitely consistently be an escort trade. Much like all the other types of support trades, London escorts are enticed to where naughty males with funds work very long work days. And that conventionally means the City of London. Although now, of course, it also suggests Canary Wharf where the multinational banks function and cavort and Belgravia where the “Hedgies” of the hugely loaded private Hedge Funds are set up in discrete houses free from even a sign to display their whereabouts. If you do not really know wherein they are, they will not want you to look around them in any case.

Working in the City of London is a great experience in a lot of ways. The feeling of history surrounding you in the thoroughfares and buildings surrounding you is evident; from Samuel Pepys residence and roadways he would definitely have been acquainted with to the settings of Jack the Rippers homicides, World War 2 shell spaces that appear in the striking incongruity of two matching property along with a fresh eighties structure, rendering it transparent that the hole is where German bombs ruined a former building. The architecture that is meant to scream about the power and dependability of the operators, be they insurance organizations, banking institutions, merchant banks, brokers or accountants.

The classic City of London (the Square Mile) is now catering predominantly to the minor portion of the investment professional services industry (and Goldman Sachs!) including insurance companies and their associated businesses who bunch up all around the Lloyds Property and the recognizable Swiss Re tower. It is a misnomer seriously to refer to the City when a lot of giants are someplace else. But lots of people mention Wall Street inspite of countless of the main firms being actually settled down in Connecticut.

Romanian sex workers persecuted in England

I am still not sure what amazed me most about this article in The Guardian. The understated headline, the random misogyny and sexism of the British Police and Home Office, the double standards or the fact that it was hidden and not front page news.

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Let me quote at length from the article:

A policy aimed at deporting “high-harm” EU-national criminals and those not entitled to remain in Britain is to be challenged by Romanian sex workers who maintain they are self-employed.

Among those detained and served with deportation papers are an increasing number of women from eastern Europe who have been working on the streets and in premises across London and Manchester. Many do not have convictions.

Prostitution is legal in the UK, although activities associated with it such as kerb-crawling, pimping and owning a brothel are crimes. Some of the women have been arrested by officers during raids intended to break up trafficking rings.

The women, mainly Romanian, have received letters from Operation Nexus officers giving them about a month’s notice that they are liable to be detained and put on a flight back to Bucharest.

Several women fighting deportation are now being supported by the English Collective of Prostitutes (ECP). “There was a raid which was supposed to be saving victims from trafficking,” explained one young woman who wished to remain anonymous.

The police took paperwork and money. I asked for a receipt. They said I was being cheeky. They wanted to know if had been trafficked and asked the client if I was taking drugs. He said no.

They didn’t arrest me but said I should be deported and asked me to go to the police station. I went along with a lawyer and showed a letter from a course proving that I was studying English.” The threat to remove her was eventually dropped.

Some of the women who were sent removal letters are now planning to challenge them on the grounds that they are exercising their treaty rights through being self-employed in the sex industry. Previous EU law cases have established that prostitution constitutes self-employment.”

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All of which I might be able to get behind if self employed polish plumbers or Hungarian builders or Dutch farm workers. Or men at all. But its so blatantly targeted at Romanians,And women. As such it is classic racism and misogyny.

I don’t work directly with a lot of Romanians working as escorts in Marbella. But I do have a very good friend called Alex (real name, by the way) who is bright, honest, funny and very hard working. She came to Spain with a plan on what she wanted to do as a Marbella escort and she works her plan.

The idea that she is some kind of “high-harm” anything is laughable and stupid. And I am sure that there are many women just like her working as escorts in London.

I spoke with my friends at Ally’s Angels escorts Ibiza and they had a similar story to tell. The same with several of the best escort agencies in Ibiza.

I am sure that there are women who have been trafficked. This campaign isnt going to help them. And there are people involved in drugs and criminal activity. None of the women described in this article fall anywhere near that category.

And, just as an aside, since when have the English Police been allowed to seize someone´s property without permission, let alone a receipt?

Stopping now due to the steam coming out of my ears making a mess of the laptop.

Checking Your Phone During Sex…

 

I am fairly broad-minded. There are few things I haven’t done. Managing the best escorts in Marbella and having worked with the finest London escorts there are even fewer that I haven’t organised. And I don’t think there is anything that I haven’t been asked for, except necrophilia – though I did once have an enquiry from a man who wanted a girl to play dead. With his personality it was probably what he was used to from his previous partners…

But even I was shocked to discover a sex act that is so disgusting, that shows such little respect for the other human being(s) that you are with that it is staggering in its depravity. Checking out your phone notifications during sex.

Seriously, WTF people?

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And then she checked her Twitter feed…

A friend sent me the link to this Huffington Post video which is OK but did at least get me thinking. Surely that isn’t actually a thing? Well it seems that I am officially old. I checked it out with a selection of my friends both in and out of the adult industries. I thought maybe women might be more prone than men because, you know, cliches. Or professionals than amateurs because they are checking out for business.Or people in long term relationships rather than the first throes of passion because actually Twitter might be more stimulating!

And it seems that it is an age thing, not a profession thing. Amateur friends were no more or less likely to do or experience this than some stunning Ibiza escort. But while all my younger high class escort colleagues and friends immediately understood what I was asking and thought it was no big thing, my older civilian friends and mature London escorts had the same reaction I did.

For me, if the sex is so dull that you are able to check your phone, then there is something seriously wrong. And if you are paying for a woman’s time and attention and still check your phone then surely you aren’t getting value? Well, it seems I am officially an old fart.

But I am still right, and it is still wrong. So just stop it. OK?

Kisses,

Bella x

 

 

 

 

 

 

See the world

When I was younger we used to joke about old advertisement for the armed services that went along the lines of “Join the army. Travel the world. Meet interesting people. And kill them.”

There are basically two types of advertisement for the armed services. One emphasises the travel, adventure and glamour. The other pushes the risk and dangers and challenges you with “are you tough enough?” These days the Royal Marines Commando pushes the latter. In the 70s and 80s it was all about glamour and palm trees.

What does all this have to do with sexy escorts in Marbella, Ibiza escorts, or London escorts? Well, it turns out, a heck of a lot.

 

I was speaking with my friend Sarah last week and she was laying out her plans for the next few months… Marbella, London, Barcelona, Madrid. Then off to Milan, Rome, Bari and Palermo: Then Marbella and London one last time before she goes back to Ibiza for the summer season. All of that travel 5 star, staying in the best hotels, eating at the finest restaurants and with a lot of extravagant shopping and sight-seeing thrown in.

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Girls who escort Marbella menfolk are even sexier than this…

Best of all, her travel, hotels, meals and shopping are very often paid for her by clients. Luxury all the way, anywhere she wants.

And all that from her work as a professional escort.

She really loves her work. She is her own boss, works when she likes and comes and goes as she wishes. If you don´t count working out as work (as a former ballerina, she doesn’t) she manages all this on a maximum of 20 hours work a week. Normally a lot less.

That´s what happens when you work a a high class escort at the top of your game. I see a lot of Sarah when she is with me as a Marbella escort. She is charming, clever and as at ease with herself as anyone I have ever met.

So much for the cliche of the strung out hooker! Maybe I should run an advert; “Join the escorts. Travel the world. Meet interesting people. And shag them.”

Kisses

Ione x

 

 

 

 

 

Taste The Bush

Hard to imagine why an advert that invites you to “taste the bush” might generate complaints in the UK.

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Typically subtle Australian advertising

Just read this in Huffington Post and it made me cringe and smile. Not at the same time, that would have made me look like I was having a stroke.

Australian wine company Premier Estates decided to push their brand with an advert and social media campaign that was pretty much certain to generate some controversy. Heaven forbid what they might have chosen to do so as a way of getting a lot more bang for their buck. Why pay for advertising when you can get the UK´s Advertising Standards Authority and the media (and me) to do it for you?

The ASA received eight complaints and then climbed on their high horse and pontificated with their ruling against Premier Estates.

They said that most people watching the ad would interpret “taste the bush” “to be a reference to oral sex, particularly given that it was accompanied with the image of the wine glass positioned directly in front of the woman’s crotch.”They said that because of that “the ad presented the woman in a degrading manner,”.

They also ruled that people would understand the hashtag #TasteTheBush to be a double entendre that could refer to Australian wine or female genitalia. Surely not?

I asked my escorts in Marbella and my friends who are Ibiza escorts and they just laughed at how pompous we British can be sometimes. They were also amazed that eight people complaining can mean that the rest of the British people are not allowed to see something…except via social media, the newspapers…

Personally I think it is the great tradition of subtle Australian advertising as shown in the Holeproof “No Knickers” campaign…

And I shall be seeking out the fine but reasonably priced Premier Estates wines at the first opportunity.

Kisses

Ione x

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