The Strange Moral Lines About Sex For Money

Andrew Carnegie once said that “He that can not reason is a fool. He that will not is a bigot. He that dare not is a slave.” I was watching a nineteen ninety six film called The People Versus Larry Flynt. It stars Woody Harrelson as Larry Flynt, the owner of Hostler magazine, dozens of others and owner of about half the internet. If it is porn he likely has a finger in it somewhere – if you see what I mean. Edward Norton stars as his long suffering lawyer and friend, and Courtney Love as his wife. If you have never seen it, you should. It is a damn good film and my goodness it got me thinking about a whole range of topics. But mainly the strange attitudes and laws around sex. In Spain, where I am mainly based, the law is not an issue. Consenting adults can get on with whatever sex they want, money or not. But moral judgements, that is different. Hijo de puta! (son of a whore) is still a common term of abuse.

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I guess this is about to be immoral

So, sex for money. Let us take a bit of a look at it. Halle Berry won an Oscar and got paid for pretending to have sex on camera. Porn stars can have sex on camera and get paid for it. And many of them are celebrated and become famous and write books. But even in Ibiza for a firm like Ally s Angels, escorts cannot get paid to have sex in private where nobody else gets to know about it without either the law or peoples silly unthinking moral judgments potentially slamming down on them. You think slut shaming is a thing? Try being a working escort!

It almost seems that having sex for money is OK only as long as you publicise it and let other people watch. Surely that is not the way it is intended to be? Why is a porn star a star and an escort a social outcast? Surely (except for some people with specialised tastes) sex is a private thing that consenting adults have together? Go to any club and strangers will be having sex outside or in the car park. Or even in the club. And they will never see each other again. And no-one cares. But if one of them has been paid it suddenly becomes wrong and shameful. For the payee, never for the payer. How is that right?

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Marbella Escorts

The Westernmost coast; Marbella and Puerto Banus especially is really where the Daily Mail sends journalists to find criminals,, famous people, narcotics and anecdotes about the Spanish being mercenary.

The east side of the Costa — Torremolinos, Benalmadena, Fuengirola and Mijas– are really the place where the Daily Mail will often send newspaper people as soon as they are trying to find reports regarding benefits fakes, drugs and the Spanish being xenophobic concerning British settlers.

But the Costa and Marbella area above all is really also the place where Daily Mail reporters come down to enjoy the game of golf, take a break along with their families and try to associate with celebs!

Marbella and the rest of the Costa are really peculiar bedfellows.

The Costa was to begin with a series of tiny white villages based on the sea and agriculture. However, in addition to the ability to cultivate nearly almost anything including things like lemons, pecans and olive oil– most of which had been entire world well-known since Roman times– the Costa del Sol had a single large feature in its favour. over 300 days every year of sun. Not overly sizzling in the summer months, not very cold in the winter season; it is in essence, just like SoCal, the Goldilocks of atmospherics conditions. And with the arrival of aviation starting with the 60s forward, it emerged as a getaway of preference for Northern Europeans.

Marbella was a tiny community of a few hundred residents up until the 1960s, when Prince Alfonso of Hohenlohe-Langenburg opened up The Marbella Club and targeted enticing world-wide famous people to stay in what was at that point a serene and concealed elite refuge. Sojourners included Hollywood celebrities including Richard Burton and Elizabeth Taylor, Ava Gardner, Gary Cooper and Vivien Leigh and also an array of the important European blue-blooded friends and families.

Without a doubt the very first upper-class escorts landed in Marbella at pretty much the identical time !

However, there is really still a significant choice of hotties performing individually and for the leading Escort agencies in Marbella. So relax, and pick the babe or agency that you feel most comfortable with.

To provide you a sense of scale, that denotes that at almost any provided day in the summertime there is about 1 escort hottie in Marbella per twenty males! Fair odds on the client side of the equation. And what a variety of sexy hookers there must be!

A lot of the Marbella hookers who tour for the summer time fail to realize how cutthroat the market place is and only linger for a few days when their dreams of instantaneous recognition and fortune do not materialize. Working as an escort in Marbella is really like any type of business; it requires time to genuinely establish a reputation.

These days, Marbella is really pretty much a theme park for escorts and prostitutes of all kinds. All throughout the year, the “adult relaxation” section of Sur weekly paper is loaded along with classified ads that yield little to the imagination and commonly traumatize first time tourists. In the busiest part of the summer time there are really virtually 5,000 pro call girls working in the Marbella space. Which is omitting all the semi-pro women who will swap a blow job for a night out and a purse!

Well … yes and no.

The absence of expatriation from Spain to the United Kingdom (and other places) also generated a less appetizing cadre of gangsters and fugitives. So much to make sure that it was given the tag Costa del Crime. And, as you might presume, professional hookers were always in very high demand to aid such ego fed blokes relax. Also, if you are a successful businessman/ racketeer you deserve to have a magnificent and sexy woman making you look good, don’t you ?

I’m sure you can visualize the appearance of the Marbella escorts from the eighties– large hairstyle, shoulder pads, rich sun tan and loads of blusher. However a great deal more “all-natural” appearing in many other ways as breast implants were not as typical at that point. Nowadays a breast enhancement nearly looks mandatory for every escort in Marbella. However it needs to be really mentioned that the truly successful high-class escorts in Marbella are really now in fact very extremely unlikely to be really enhanced. A more petite upper body has the identical cache that very white skin used to have in the Edwardian era.

A sizeable portion of the Marbella escorts focus on the legendary 2nd line in Puerto Banus, the place they pursue their vocation in the bars and on the street. Its unpleasant and can be fun if you are really in to that sort of stuff …

Then there are the “houses” or bordellos the place a man will spot up to 200 Marbella escort hotties at virtually any time. These can vary from the long settled and tasteful Milady Palace through to middle of the road welcoming places including The Glass Palace to dirty shag pads. At that point there are the private homes used as “houses” which are commonly “washing machines” for drugs syndicates.

In nineteen seventy, the holiday spot of Puerto Banus launched and Marbella ´ s success took off. Shining sun and razzle-dazzle attracted money, aristocracy and vips from everywhere in the whole world, which brought in the accompanying crew of builders, chefs estate agents and of course, escort babes.

Fucking and Finance

Obviously in London there are the energetic and striving service markets that group all over pretty much everywhere that cash can be found; restaurants, bars, night clubs and strip clubs, barbers, couturier and clothes shops. And, this being an equal opportunities age, jewelers, make up stores and beauty parlors, and loads of health clubs and fitness centres. And high class escorts.

The very major firms in the London finance field have moved to Canary Wharf, the place where many of the world-wide investment and retail banking companies are based, and to Belgravia the place where the Hedge Fund and equity capital whales reside, do the job and frolic. Often with sexy London escorts, of course.

High class London escorts are located in plenty of places of London, but eventually each one of them will definitely at least try out their hands (!) at operating in the financial market place. Who has not pondered on messing around in the finance marketplace at some point? Well these kinds of young ladies can do, and do, when they want. All the remarks on the news about men and women coming into and leaving the market make me smile somehow. I can not conceive of precisely why …

But let us be truthful, where there is the magical three legs of power, loot and men there will definitely consistently be an escort trade. Much like all the other types of support trades, London escorts are enticed to where naughty males with funds work very long work days. And that conventionally means the City of London. Although now, of course, it also suggests Canary Wharf where the multinational banks function and cavort and Belgravia where the “Hedgies” of the hugely loaded private Hedge Funds are set up in discrete houses free from even a sign to display their whereabouts. If you do not really know wherein they are, they will not want you to look around them in any case.

Working in the City of London is a great experience in a lot of ways. The feeling of history surrounding you in the thoroughfares and buildings surrounding you is evident; from Samuel Pepys residence and roadways he would definitely have been acquainted with to the settings of Jack the Rippers homicides, World War 2 shell spaces that appear in the striking incongruity of two matching property along with a fresh eighties structure, rendering it transparent that the hole is where German bombs ruined a former building. The architecture that is meant to scream about the power and dependability of the operators, be they insurance organizations, banking institutions, merchant banks, brokers or accountants.

The classic City of London (the Square Mile) is now catering predominantly to the minor portion of the investment professional services industry (and Goldman Sachs!) including insurance companies and their associated businesses who bunch up all around the Lloyds Property and the recognizable Swiss Re tower. It is a misnomer seriously to refer to the City when a lot of giants are someplace else. But lots of people mention Wall Street inspite of countless of the main firms being actually settled down in Connecticut.

Romanian sex workers persecuted in England

I am still not sure what amazed me most about this article in The Guardian. The understated headline, the random misogyny and sexism of the British Police and Home Office, the double standards or the fact that it was hidden and not front page news.

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Let me quote at length from the article:

A policy aimed at deporting “high-harm” EU-national criminals and those not entitled to remain in Britain is to be challenged by Romanian sex workers who maintain they are self-employed.

Among those detained and served with deportation papers are an increasing number of women from eastern Europe who have been working on the streets and in premises across London and Manchester. Many do not have convictions.

Prostitution is legal in the UK, although activities associated with it such as kerb-crawling, pimping and owning a brothel are crimes. Some of the women have been arrested by officers during raids intended to break up trafficking rings.

The women, mainly Romanian, have received letters from Operation Nexus officers giving them about a month’s notice that they are liable to be detained and put on a flight back to Bucharest.

Several women fighting deportation are now being supported by the English Collective of Prostitutes (ECP). “There was a raid which was supposed to be saving victims from trafficking,” explained one young woman who wished to remain anonymous.

The police took paperwork and money. I asked for a receipt. They said I was being cheeky. They wanted to know if had been trafficked and asked the client if I was taking drugs. He said no.

They didn’t arrest me but said I should be deported and asked me to go to the police station. I went along with a lawyer and showed a letter from a course proving that I was studying English.” The threat to remove her was eventually dropped.

Some of the women who were sent removal letters are now planning to challenge them on the grounds that they are exercising their treaty rights through being self-employed in the sex industry. Previous EU law cases have established that prostitution constitutes self-employment.”

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All of which I might be able to get behind if self employed polish plumbers or Hungarian builders or Dutch farm workers. Or men at all. But its so blatantly targeted at Romanians,And women. As such it is classic racism and misogyny.

I don’t work directly with a lot of Romanians working as escorts in Marbella. But I do have a very good friend called Alex (real name, by the way) who is bright, honest, funny and very hard working. She came to Spain with a plan on what she wanted to do as a Marbella escort and she works her plan.

The idea that she is some kind of “high-harm” anything is laughable and stupid. And I am sure that there are many women just like her working as escorts in London.

I spoke with my friends at Ally’s Angels escorts Ibiza and they had a similar story to tell. The same with several of the best escort agencies in Ibiza.

I am sure that there are women who have been trafficked. This campaign isnt going to help them. And there are people involved in drugs and criminal activity. None of the women described in this article fall anywhere near that category.

And, just as an aside, since when have the English Police been allowed to seize someone´s property without permission, let alone a receipt?

Stopping now due to the steam coming out of my ears making a mess of the laptop.

Will Brexit mean a Brit expat exodus?

The short answer is no. Certainly not from here in Spain.

This article in The Times raised the question recently in a rather dramatic manner, such that The Guardian felt obliged to report it. Does anyone else remember when The Times was the official newspaper of record for the entire world?

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The facts, though, do not support the argument. And nor does apocryphal evidence here “on the ground”.

The Times quotes UN population estimates for 2015 which say that 1.22 million Britons are living in other EU countries at present. The same source shows that in 2010 the figure was 1.18 million. The estimated number of British migrants in the EU has therefore slightly increased during the six years to 2015.

The article says that 100 Britons have been leaving Spain over the past two years. That is based on UN data showing that slightly fewer than 309,000 UK nationals were living in Spain during the period, compared to 381,025 in 2013. The 2010 level was 319,144 people.

However, the article’s claim that the drop in the number living in Spain is driven by Brexit fears has not been substantiated. Data published by Spain’s national statistics office reveal that outward migration from Spain has increased substantially since 2009 due to the country’s economic woes, which have affected both Spanish nationals and foreign-born residents.

However, it is quite likely that the UN data underestimates the number of Britons living abroad because EU citizens living in other member states do not have to register their arrival.I know many Britons who have been living in Spain for many years and have not obtained an NIE. I´m not sure how they function, as without it most things are somewhere between difficult and impossible, but then I am fairly well integrated.

Even fewer go for full residency, as it is extremely difficult (and sometimes expensive) to obtain. Which is odd, as paying tax properly without residency is tricky, so you would think the government would encourage it.

I also wonder how the number of Britons is calculated – NIE registrations, local voter registrations or residency?

For example, in 2010 the Institute for Public Policy Research estimated that 808,000 UK nationals were living in Spain permanently. And that certainly seems like a far more realistic figure

In addition, as the piece itself states, there is no sudden increase in Britons returning home. According to the latest migration estimates from the Office for National Statistics 87,000 British citizens returned to the UK in the year ending September 2015. In the same period for the previous year, it was 81,000. And in 2010 at the height of the economic crisis and when there was no talk of Brexit, 92,000 Britons left. So basically, the entire article is tosh!

There are also a huge number of Spaniards emigrating to other Eu countries in the same period. And that has little to do with “Brexit” and everything to do with the terrible economic situation in most of Spain, and especially for young people.

We are fortunate here in Marbella in that we have a micro-economy made up of wealthy residents, and the tourists that we attract here are more wealthy than the general population. And that is obviously good news for my Marbella escorts!

As an aside, the article in The Guardian did give them the chance to roll out some of the usual cliches, including what Britons in Spain are like. Did they mention Marbella, or the successful business and club owners in Ibiza? Oh no. They show this…2984

I mean, really? Not Tibu and La Sala in Marbella, or the bars inland where everyone is beautifully integrated? Not Pacha in Ibiza, where my friends who are Ibiza escorts spend so much of their “off-duty” time? Nope. Fat middle aged men  surrounded by Union flags playing, incidentally, American pool! Grrr…

Its like someone doing an article about England and deciding to show a photo of a pub in Skelmersdale instead of somewhere in Chelsea where my London MILF friends might hang out. Or an abandoned park in some former mining town instead of sexy beautiful girls putting their wares on display in Green Park.

Everything is about focus I get. And the media are superb at controlling that while all the time presenting themselves as impartial.

So, back to the original question. Will Brexit mean that there will be a massive exodus of Britons from Spain? Only if the Spanish decide that the huge amounts of money spent here by Britons are outweighed ny the few people claiming Spanish benefits. There is no way on Gods earth that most expat Brits will voluntarily go back!

Kisses

 

 

Checking Your Phone During Sex…

 

I am fairly broad-minded. There are few things I haven’t done. Managing the best escorts in Marbella and having worked with the finest London escorts there are even fewer that I haven’t organised. And I don’t think there is anything that I haven’t been asked for, except necrophilia – though I did once have an enquiry from a man who wanted a girl to play dead. With his personality it was probably what he was used to from his previous partners…

But even I was shocked to discover a sex act that is so disgusting, that shows such little respect for the other human being(s) that you are with that it is staggering in its depravity. Checking out your phone notifications during sex.

Seriously, WTF people?

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And then she checked her Twitter feed…

A friend sent me the link to this Huffington Post video which is OK but did at least get me thinking. Surely that isn’t actually a thing? Well it seems that I am officially old. I checked it out with a selection of my friends both in and out of the adult industries. I thought maybe women might be more prone than men because, you know, cliches. Or professionals than amateurs because they are checking out for business.Or people in long term relationships rather than the first throes of passion because actually Twitter might be more stimulating!

And it seems that it is an age thing, not a profession thing. Amateur friends were no more or less likely to do or experience this than some stunning Ibiza escort. But while all my younger high class escort colleagues and friends immediately understood what I was asking and thought it was no big thing, my older civilian friends and mature London escorts had the same reaction I did.

For me, if the sex is so dull that you are able to check your phone, then there is something seriously wrong. And if you are paying for a woman’s time and attention and still check your phone then surely you aren’t getting value? Well, it seems I am officially an old fart.

But I am still right, and it is still wrong. So just stop it. OK?

Kisses,

Bella x

 

 

 

 

 

 

See the world

When I was younger we used to joke about old advertisement for the armed services that went along the lines of “Join the army. Travel the world. Meet interesting people. And kill them.”

There are basically two types of advertisement for the armed services. One emphasises the travel, adventure and glamour. The other pushes the risk and dangers and challenges you with “are you tough enough?” These days the Royal Marines Commando pushes the latter. In the 70s and 80s it was all about glamour and palm trees.

What does all this have to do with sexy escorts in Marbella, Ibiza escorts, or London escorts? Well, it turns out, a heck of a lot.

 

I was speaking with my friend Sarah last week and she was laying out her plans for the next few months… Marbella, London, Barcelona, Madrid. Then off to Milan, Rome, Bari and Palermo: Then Marbella and London one last time before she goes back to Ibiza for the summer season. All of that travel 5 star, staying in the best hotels, eating at the finest restaurants and with a lot of extravagant shopping and sight-seeing thrown in.

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Girls who escort Marbella menfolk are even sexier than this…

Best of all, her travel, hotels, meals and shopping are very often paid for her by clients. Luxury all the way, anywhere she wants.

And all that from her work as a professional escort.

She really loves her work. She is her own boss, works when she likes and comes and goes as she wishes. If you don´t count working out as work (as a former ballerina, she doesn’t) she manages all this on a maximum of 20 hours work a week. Normally a lot less.

That´s what happens when you work a a high class escort at the top of your game. I see a lot of Sarah when she is with me as a Marbella escort. She is charming, clever and as at ease with herself as anyone I have ever met.

So much for the cliche of the strung out hooker! Maybe I should run an advert; “Join the escorts. Travel the world. Meet interesting people. And shag them.”

Kisses

Ione x